You’re not self-sabotaging. You’re just lying to yourself about what you actually want. “Self-sabotage” has become the excuse of choice for men who don’t want to face the real problem. It sounds clinical. It sounds like something that’s happening to you—not something you’re choosing. I’m going to break down what self-sabotage actually is, why most men use the term wrong, and what’s really going on when you blow up your own success.